I never paid attention until I had children myself and went school clothes shopping for my daughters. Crop tops and booty shorts for grade school kids are abound. Try to find a training bra that doesn’t try to look like women’s lingerie. What’s funny is that my middle schooler is in women’s sizes now and I can find her a wider variety of clothes that won’t get her sent home for dress code violations than I could when I was shopping in the children’s section.
it's worth noting that sexualizing people in general should be frowned upon and pedophiles don't actually care how "adult" the children they prey on look. it's not an excuse or reason. pedophiles will go after either girl and bad guys will go after any girl that looks old enough for them to quietly harass without facing consequences.
I looked more like the girl on the left by that age, but I don't think that should have granted me any less respect or right to childhood, and I shouldn't have been sexualized regardless of wardrobe choices
I was sexualized in elementary school for growing boobs at 8 years old. At 13+ it was basically something everyone did.
Yeahhhh I had the same experience. And she’s wearing normal clothes in my opinion and the original post itself is actually the one sexualizing her… also if they’re both 14 why are we plastering their faces on the internet for comparison? If we think it’s wrong to sexualize teens, why do ppl think it’s okay to use photos of them for conversations like this?
Agreed. She's wearing a tank top. It's probably hot outside. "Pedophile culture" is sexualizing her for wearing normal clothing, for insisting she wear something with a high neckline in order to avoid being sexualized.
Hold tf up. Since when do we buy into the bullshit that what a person is wearing/how they look would make a difference as to whether or not they get unwanted attention? This is victim blaming, 100%. When it's an adult woman rape victim, we get outraged if anyone suggests that her clothes had anything to do with it.
Girl on the left looks perfectly 14… her makeup is modest and so are her clothes unless you’re literally looking for things to sexualize her about? The explanation of this comparison I definitely agree with but I don’t see how the girl pictured on left is exemplary of that. I had damn near the same body as I do now when I was 14 and there is nothing I could have done that would have made me look as young and (seemingly) unsexualizable as the one on the right. This still feels like we are sexualizing teen bodies unnecessarily no matter what they are wearing.
I looked like the girl on the right, and my friends looked like the girl left. We were all flirted with by 18-25 year olds. We thought it was normal.. we thought we were mature, and we tried to look “hotter” when we went out
If you appear attractive to someone you will be sexualized. No amount of clothing lack of makeup or “undesirable” body type will stop this. Anything somebody might consider out of bounds there is a porn for. Self expression is extremely important to the self esteem of a young person and denying them a self esteem provides a perfect pathway to suicidal tendencies and further acceptance of abuse. If you don’t want them engaging in harmful activities then teach them why. Why shouldn’t that man be texting them? Why is that man staring them? And how should someone react when getting unwanted attention? Otherwise you’re setting your child up to live a life worse than you imagined. I sure wasn’t taught to say no but I was never allowed to wear crop tops either.
lol she's so stupid, just always looking for a reason to rage…..
Hold tf up. Since when do we buy into the bullshit that what a person is wearing/how they look would make a difference as to whether or not they get unwanted attention? This is victim blaming, 100%. When it's an adult woman rape victim, we get outraged if anyone suggests that her clothes had anything to do with it
so yeah i don't approve of what she's wearing bc society told her to to feed the male gaze and that in this world she only has worth as a sexual being
An outfit is irrelevant to how some men will see women and girls. They will sexualize them because it’s their own issue and not because of what the girl is wearing. I personally don’t find a tank top and makeup to be sexualized but maybe trying to look older than they are which is where I can see your point that women are pressured to dress a certain way from a young age to please men. But then again that age is normal for girls to be into boys in general and they want to dress more appealing and be seen more attractive and feel more confident about themselves. What’s the issue with the girl’s outfit? Her tank top or her makeup? Is it that she’s more developed for her age and shouldn’t be showing it?
It's not guys making young girls dress like that. It's girls. No one is forcing them to dress like that, they do it themselves. They dress like that because girls at that age are obsessed with being seen as older and they are becoming interested in guys and want to attract their attention. Blaming men for this is asinine.
clothes never have anything to do with sexual assault or abuse
Are we sure the girl on the left is 14 because she looks older than that.Anyone could have found that pic on the internet where she could be 17-18 and just decided to make her 14 to illustrate this point.