The Rebound : This movie gives a bad message

This movie gives a bad message

I'm a 21 year old woman in her last year of university, and I love Catherine Zeta Jones, which was half the reason I watched this movie (the other being that I came across it while surfing channels, and thought it looked rather interesting).

Entertainment wise, I thought this movie was fairly good - especially if you don't have anything to do. It's mushy enough and cute, and people who are into romance would probably like it.

However, I thought that the messages were pretty negative. My age is fairly close to that of Aram's, so I can relate to him, and it's true that most people our age are figuring out what to do, enjoy children's novels, live with their parents and even live off their parents in a lot of cases. What is NOT realistic, however, is that you travel the world for 5 years when you experience a devastating breakup. Most twenty-somethings wouldn't be able to afford the trip if they paid for themselves, and if they get their funding from their parents, that kind of defeats the purpose of the trip - to gain more "life experience" and learn how to stand on one's own feet. Going backpacking for a summer, half a year, or even a year or two is fair enough, but 5 years seems a bit too long for me - it seems as if he's trying to postpone reality. And he probably did backpack in Africa and so on, but the scenes in France and England, where he went on yachts and the like and had midnight sails, seemed unnecessarily extravagant. I went to England alone last year (I'd won a competition, and the prize was plane tickets+accommodation) and I could never have afforded to do that. Punting alone cost 20 pounds (nearest thing to a yacht I can think of), which was definitely out of the question, and I did most of my travelling in London via the underground, and went to free places such as museums. I lived off instant noodle I'd bought in my home country. Anyway, I digress - the point I'm trying to make is that I didn't buy the whole 5 year world trip thing - it came off as a rich guy who wanted a change of scenery because he was in a bad mood, and more likely than not has his folks fork out for him.

And the fact that Sandy bought it, and by default embraces him with open arms! So. the next time someone ditches you because you're "too immature" for them, all you have to do is take a 5 year long jaunt around the world, and they'll have you back. Actually, I thought that Sandy's character was portrayed pretty badly as well. The scene where Aram has dinner with her friends had me cringing, since her friends were really rather rude, for someone they'd only just met and was their friend's boyfriend. The pregnancy arc also did not show her in her best light - basically she decides to marry Aram because she's pregnant with his kid, then breaks it off because she's not pregnant after all, which seems more like something a girl Aram's age would do, not a woman in her 40s with 2 kids.

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I was 32-years-old when I met my husband who was 22-years-old. We married 2 years later, and we have been together for 17 years. We have 3 daughters aged 13, 11, and 4. I never had any trouble with our age difference, and and most of my friends were in their 20s when I first met him. I always looked a lot younger, and I always ended up dating younger men.
I agree with you wholeheartedly about your critique on the film too. I was interested in the film, because of the older woman younger man relationship.

The Divine Genealogy Goddess

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90% of your argument is Aram's finances. First of all, you don't know how much money he had saved. His parents are clearly well off too. He could have been saving for 10 years prior to the trip - the point is, you don't know that. Plus you know Sandy was paying him. Also - it did not say he traveled for five years, before he traveled it clearly showed him accepting the job he previously gave up. And it's not like he JUST got back when he bumped into Sandy, by that point it was clear he had been back in the states for a while. So I think its pretty safe to assume he only traveled maybe half of that time.

I think the bad part of the film is that they just "bumped" into each other at a restaurant. NYC has millions of people and thousands of restaurants, highly unlikely to just bump into your ex.

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90% of your argument is Aram's finances.

Well, basically because that's most people's problems right now, and I don't think it too likely that he could have saved enough to travel like he did. Just trying to be realistic.

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The "bad message" was the ending, showing that people get back together after breaking up and succeeding in life. As for the financial argument, if one saves his money and doesn't blow it on crap, he can travel the world. Notice his travels became less touristy over time; he went to Paris and did what could be costly things, then sought more by backpacking it and helping out kids. I've known lots of people with barely any money who went to other countries, but they didn't have bills, they backpacked, played punk shows and made some cash to go to the next place. Even if Aram was partly supported by his parents, it was good for him to do something with his life rather than stick around the coffee shop, get in another relationship, or let that break-up bog him down. He progressed.
As for Sandy breaking off the relationship after the pregnancy, that is very much what someone her age would do. She broke up because of the emotional turmoil and clarity that was brought after that. That age is not old, because when many women leave a marriage, they are right back where they were emotionally before it.

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I figured that Aram was doing some type of a fellowship. They have that especially if you are willing to teach and travel. Anyway he did work at that country and was probably paid well. I do get you on his stance for traveling in 5 years and there are some mature 20 year olds who don't do things as their peers. I think the only thing I thought was cliche was the economical bracket that they put the mother and him in.

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You need to see this film one more time.

5 years had passed, no one said he travelled for 5 years. You see him working in that job (obviously a very good one considering the comment which was made at the fight) he originally turned down....that is where he got his money.

Believe it or not a lot of people backpack and are not rich, yet do it off their own backs. Youth hostels are worldwide and very cheap, and you can obtain a Eurail pass (not expensive) and see loads of countries. Most backpackers I have met (I have backpacked myself) sleep on overnight trains to another country to save on accommodation costs.

You never see him doing anything really expensive. You see him walking around free tourist destinations in Europe, drinking a coffee in a street cafe (not expensive), buying a tea on a ferry in Turkey (again, cheap as chips). And he had a drink one night in a bar by the water. There wasn't any yachts, unless it was cut from the film I saw.

You see him seeing various Street festivals (free) and entering a temple in Bangladesh.

Maybe you didn't understand what he was doing in Africa, but it was obvious he was doing aid work. You don't pay them, they pay you. Plus that may be the reason for him being in Bangladesh? He obviously spent quite a bit of time just in that country as he bonded with the boy. Then was transferred to Africa?

When he met her in the restaurant, he said he saw the world. He did; whether he did it or not in one go is not mentioned. It is probable that he was coming and going because it took him 2 years to adopt his son. He probably needed to arrange that from New York.

You too could backpack if you want. Talk to someone who has done it for tips. I could suggest things, but I did it a long time ago. I saw lots and lots of touristy things, but where you spend on some things like that, you save in other ways. I have drank lots of coffee in cafes in Europe, hitched a ride on a yacht in the Greek Islands, worked on a yacht in Spain, hired a car in Turkey and drove around for a couple of weeks, slept in a bedouin tent and under the stars in the Sahara. Live life... Don't let it pass you by.