Look at it this way: Would anyone ever say, "Whatever wounds you or maims you makes you stronger"?
The German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, said: “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” It turns out that he was right.
Studies have shown that some trauma survivors report positive changes and enhanced personal development, called post traumatic growth (PTG). PTG refers to any beneficial change resulting from a major life crisis or traumatic event, but people most commonly experience a positive shift by having a renewed appreciation for life; adopting a new world view with new possibilities for themselves; feeling more personal strength; feeling more satisfied spiritually, and/or their relationships improve.
It sounds like Eleanor and Aiden were defrauded in the time owed to their characters to have a significant make-up, yet they appear to have wrought gold from the tin they were given.
Now it seemed incredible that they had been so near to parting. The warmth of their reconciliation had been full of passion, had brought them closer in some ways than they had ever been before, all defences down. Yet it had been a slightly feverish warmth -- and still was -- as if their relationship were recovering from a near-mortal wound and they were trying to reassure themselves. The quieter levels of absolute trust which had existed before had not yet been regained.
And tempering their delight and relief at the success of the mine was the knowledge of the alien presence at Trenwith House only four miles away. Often they would forget it; then it would recur like an undulant pain, so that temporarily they were at a distance from each other again. The birth and christening of Valentine Warleggan was the latest thorn in the flesh. Neither said what was uppermost in their minds; it could never be uttered by anyone.
Surprised both Ross and Delmeza did'nt question it right away when Demelza told him after the siege.
told D it was she whom he loved and in his eloquent way of saying I'm sorry
(And BTW, what is up with that? After reconciling at home, they then walked all the way over to Hendrawna Cliff to kiss and hug?)
Not content with smoothing out troubles in Trenwith, he finally sorts out his own troubles at home, and has a conversation with Demelza he should’ve had ages ago.
‘My arrogance, my idiocy, has been spectacular,’ he admits. Hey, no arguments there. But if Poldark teaches us anything, it’s that there’s nothing that a good apology and a hug atop a cliff can’t solve.
There are quite a number of people on this board who share thoughtful, fascinating, sometime provocative comments that it is always interesting and a pleasure to read. It is also enjoyable because there are regular contributors who are bringing a masculine perspective demonstrating that we are often very similar in our thinking
Have you ever been involved directly in a fan group
But DH does not give him the ritual words that will sound like he's asking permission to be forgiven. So, when can forgiveness occur if the formula is not exact?
The thing is, I don't think he ever really said sorry and asked for her forgiveness. In one scene he said, "I take no pride in my visit to her." And in the final "apology" scene he said that Demelza was his real, abiding love.
I would have liked it if their reconciliation had come sooner in the episode, so that we could have gotten a longer, more convincing reconciliation scene. As it is, although Demelza is moved to tears in the reconciliation scene, she still doesn't look completely mollified in the final, cliffside scene. She still appears to have a slightly resentful expression in her eyes
My hope is that the cast and crew get some downtime to revisit their own lives and rest. Or not, if they have already begun again.
When the cost is high in relationships, communication can be extremely difficult. Even in ordinary times there can be misunderstandings if people are in different emotional places
Over the years I have felt that it is easier for some people to say whatever is on their minds when they are "speaking" on the Web to others.
The struggles to understand - I believe - are what give us richness in our lives, develop character, and create layers of memories that bind us. Don't you think? Those are the times we remember and cherish
If Ross and Demelza were real people, I could only say that they have done their best given their histories