old tartar that she was
And maybe sleep with his one, good eye open.
No one forced Ross to marry Demelza
If you'd be fine watching this evolving between a husband/partner of yours and someone else then that's great for you.
I think it's Ross who should be prepared to deal with the outcome HE created. And maybe sleep with his one, good eye open.
In this series Liz and Ross were not going to run away together
In the older version (whether true to the books or not) Ross and Elizabeth planned to defy convention and run away together.
Of course he liked Demelza. She turned his house into a home but he was not ready to make that kind of commitment. This should be obvious to everybody.
Okay, he chose to make love to her that night and he chose to go after her when she left and chose to marry her when he could just continued having her without marrying her. He is a man of the world, a soldier and nobody, least of all Demelza, forced him to make a life commitment. What was Ross to do? Carry a torch for Elizabeth forever and never try to find some form of happiness for himself? He didn't love Demelza when he married her and Demelza knew that, but she could take away his loneliness, give him companionship, give him love and a family. What did Elizabeth have to offer him?
I said that he tried to stop it and was not ready for a lifetime commitment
He didn't choose to make a lifetime commitment. There wasn't too much time or care for thinking things out.
Not at night, but after Elizabeth left, he thought things through while he sharpened his scythe. And then he chose to make a lifetime commitment. As per the Poldark scripts, he slowly, carefully sharpens his scythe and then sighs as he comes to a decision. Then he calls out to Demelza.
your review of Ross's behavior following Elizabeth's visit was great.
the conviction, different opinions, and most of all, the respect in which your give and take has occurred.
Anyway, my summary about Ross and Demelza - or any couple in similar situations - coming together is based on two principles:
(1) Is from physics in considering the attraction of an irresistible force and an immovable object when in close proximity to each other, which is what happened when Ross brought Demelza home to be the kitchen servant;and
(2) Is a quote from 1980 by one of my favorite singer-poets: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."
He tried to stop it after the first kiss because he did not want to take advantage of Demelza. His father, Joshua, had been a libertine and he tried hard not to be like Joshua. I don't think either of them was thinking of lifetime commitments when they kissed or when they slept together.