Sex and Dating : Poll: Are you open to being ethically nonmonogamous
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I feel like jealousy might always emerge in these types of arrangements. I think they just have more robust coping skills and are generally more communicative with their partners about things that bother them.
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I didn't say 'love is shared,' you did.
People can be weird when it comes to attention. The concern that your partner may meet someone and then leave you is still present in a poly relationship. That'd be one source of jealousy
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People can be weird when it comes to attention. The concern that your partner may meet someone and then leave you is still present in a poly relationship. That'd be one source of jealousy
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Look honey I'm paraphrasing the article I read. The polyamorists claim they get jealous.
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Their partner's attention being on other people because it may result in the partner leaving for those other people.
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My exact feelings!
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Nimda is ethically nonmonogamous.
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So is Nettie and AnnaMaria. Nimda's Brother, too. Maybe their in a Quad.
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Even though I have a bawdy sense of humor I'm very vanilla and believe in monogamy
Confucius
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Your mind is open not your legs
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I would be opposed to being ethically non-monogamous because I’d rather passionately share the love with only one person in my life, as that would give it a more genuine feel. With that being said though, there’s nothing wrong with other people engaging into this if they communicate what occurs behind the scenes and mutually agree to this on their own accord. It’s all about honesty from both sides within the open marriage or relationship.
“There are no atheists in foxholes, eh?”-Keith Jennings from the Omen.
“There are no atheists in foxholes, eh?”-Keith Jennings from the Omen.
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I wonder if humans have a natural predisposition toward monogamy or polyamory. Consider also that polyamory is more emotionally involved than swinging, where the focus is on sexual variety versus physical and emotional intimacy with multiple partners.
I read an article on this recently. Honestly I think it boils down to the fact that people want sexual variety at a biological level and that drive is incongruent with what we want at a relational level in our society. This biological drive is strong do people will chest to satisfy it. Consequently, we create systems like monogamy or nonmonogamy to manage these competing interests. Therefore, I don't think one system will work for everyone, and the social stigma attached to polyamory is enough to make me lose interest in it
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I read an article on this recently. Honestly I think it boils down to the fact that people want sexual variety at a biological level and that drive is incongruent with what we want at a relational level in our society. This biological drive is strong do people will chest to satisfy it. Consequently, we create systems like monogamy or nonmonogamy to manage these competing interests. Therefore, I don't think one system will work for everyone, and the social stigma attached to polyamory is enough to make me lose interest in it
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People who say "honestly" before a sentence typically are not telling the truth.
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Honestly you're right.
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But what happens when you fall for someone so hard you don’t want to be with anyone else? And your significant other feels the same way?
I respect people who are ok with consensual open relationships but it’s not easy to live that way your whole life.
"You had me at Elk Tartare"
-Erin Wotherspoon
I respect people who are ok with consensual open relationships but it’s not easy to live that way your whole life.
"You had me at Elk Tartare"
-Erin Wotherspoon
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Then at that point you talk to your main partner about whether they'd be willing to go full monogamous for a time. Seems like the logical step to take.
If they refuse then maybe it doesn't work out. That's true if the relationship is monogamous as well. People include outside parties in monogamous relationships, too, it's just done on the sly.
Ultimately I feel like w lot of monogamy only people are clinging to the fantastical belief that they'll find "the one" and you'll only ever have each other. The truth is in real long term relationships you'll often develop crushes on people outside the relationship. You'll find other people hot. It's normal, but we don't like to admit to this because it hurts our feelings.
If there's one benefit to polyamory it's that there seems to be more open communication among the parties. This is critical to any serious relationship flourishing. Monogamy might promote less openness to preserve The aforementioned fantasy.
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If they refuse then maybe it doesn't work out. That's true if the relationship is monogamous as well. People include outside parties in monogamous relationships, too, it's just done on the sly.
Ultimately I feel like w lot of monogamy only people are clinging to the fantastical belief that they'll find "the one" and you'll only ever have each other. The truth is in real long term relationships you'll often develop crushes on people outside the relationship. You'll find other people hot. It's normal, but we don't like to admit to this because it hurts our feelings.
If there's one benefit to polyamory it's that there seems to be more open communication among the parties. This is critical to any serious relationship flourishing. Monogamy might promote less openness to preserve The aforementioned fantasy.
Cheerio.
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Yeah when you're in love you have chemicals in the brain make it hard to think of others. That high ends in a year or two, and you'll notice other people
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Free love, baby. Shall we shag now or shag later
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Non-monogamous is the only type of relationship I’ll agree to be in. I don’t believe in possession over someone or putting restrictions on someone in a relationship. Love shouldn’t be restricted since as human beings we are capable of loving more than just one person. To me it seems unhealthy to think you have to be or meant to be with one person, hence why people cheat on each other and divorce each other all the time.
If you sincerely want to be with one person and truly want that then that’s different but a lot of people end up getting married because they think they have to and society tells you being married with kids equals success. But in reality if you’re happy with yourself and your life that’s what makes you successful.
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So how come you and Donnie haven't hooked up yet? You two sound perfect for each other.
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Those are good enough reasons.
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Most guys would go for it in a big way, but women keep their brains in a different part of their body.
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He thinks women don't want sex which is not true. God is it not true.
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No.
😺 Schrodinger's Cat walks into a bar, and doesn't. 🤨 Let's go, Brandon! 🤨 Try that in a small town.
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Okay, point well taken. I withdraw the charge of stupidity. That will be stricken from the record. And please disregard that remark, members of the Jury.
😺 Schrodinger's Cat walks into a bar, and doesn't. 🤨 Let's go, Brandon! 🤨 Try that in a small town.
😺 Schrodinger's Cat walks into a bar, and doesn't. 🤨 Let's go, Brandon! 🤨 Try that in a small town.
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I've certainly had casual partners in the past who wanted to 'up' it to being a regular relationship though
Be careful!
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