Sex and Dating : Is it fair for a guy to flat out reject

Is it fair for a guy to flat out reject

a girl solely on her appearance ? Or does that make him a douche ? Should he also take into account her intelligence, personality, etc ?

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Life's generally unfair so the answer is probably no.

Hey, it's a kind of magic!

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Schrodinger's cat walks into a bar, and doesn't.

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Yes, it makes you a douche. 99% of what is great about women is their intelligence and personality.

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Schrodinger's cat walks into a bar, and doesn't.

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99% of what is great about women is their intelligence and personality.

Women…. good personalities…. is this the Twilight Zone?

Summer, the wonder, the hunger, and the sound of distant thunder

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Yes. Please see PA's excellent response.



Schrodinger's cat walks into a bar, and doesn't.

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It's not fair, but most guys, being the shallow Hals they are, will reject a little gem of a girl, because she doesn't look like a porn star.

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Really?😢

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like you have anything to worry about anyway. you are more beautiful than a porn star.

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Of course it's 'fair' to flat out reject someone and you can do it without being a douche. Just simply say I'm not interested. No other reason is needed. And by the same token, it's unfair to force a guy (or girl) to be with someone who they have no interest in. No one is obliged to be with anyone.

We live in a weird new world now where some people believe they're owed something or entitled to something without having to work for it, maybe it's due to political correctness or entitlement culture or it's a millennial thing, I dunno. Finding love is just like anything else in this world, it takes time and effort and not everyone is going to be attracted to you, in fact, most people aren't going to be attracted to you. Welcome to reality.

Elliot Rodger is a case in point. Rodger was a very average looking guy who mistakenly thought he was God's gift to women and every hot girl should've been attracted to him but apparently none of the hot sorority girls he wanted gave him a second look and he couldn't cope with it, so he went on a killing spree and then ended his own life. If he had taken the time and effort to assess and improve his own situation and maybe lowered his standards a bit (focusing on average girls instead of bombshells), he might have found love and happiness instead of bitter rejection, insanity and an early grave. In many ways, I blame our culture for promoting this myth that everyone is special, all students are gifted and brilliant, all men are studs and all women are beauty queens, and everyone should be given whatever they want in life without having to work for anything or improve themselves. Such a culture creates unrealistic expectations that often end in failure and tragedy.

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I've rejected guys solely on their appearance without taking account of his intelligence, personality or whatever.
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