Sex and Dating : For you, can someone hot not be your type?

For you, can someone hot not be your type?

I see hot people all the time… but most of them don't draw me in. Like they're nice to look at, but there's no spark, no flame. I may or may not be open to sex in a FWB situation if I got to know them better, but wouldn't date them. Not sure if this is normal or one of the many ways I'm fucking weird.
My best friend is a perfect example of this. She nice to look at, but I only see her as a friend. Random hot girls I see when out are good examples. Like I am not compelled to talk to most hot women. They gotta have something that sticks out to me, and that can be a number of things, not always conventional things.

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No question. If someone is mean or shallow or smarter and funnier than me, then gtfo bitch.

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lol
It's not just personality though. It's like there are those I look at and I'm like that's nice to look at… and I can see they are hot… but I feel no connection. Then I see a girl, and maybe she is not even as hot as these hot girls I notice… and I am drawn to something like big eyes or a certain smile or face shape… and I'm hooked. Then personality and how she feels about me determines where it goes from there.

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Hot people can burn in hell! Ugly people like moi (I know “he” is going to reply to this) unite!

In all seriousness, I honestly don’t really see hotness or ugliness. I’m not oblivious to it. I do know what socially makes someone look and act hot vs. ugly. Same thing with lifestyle. I know what lifestyle choices look good and don’t look good. But, that doesn’t mean I go by those ideals as my personal preferences and attraction.

For me, it’s not so much that the person is hot or that they’re ugly. Because I can be attracted to all sort of people. To be fair, I use the word attraction loosely because… I think I mainly have this so called attraction out of desperation because I’m lonely. But, I also think it’s because I have a fluid sexuality. So, naturally I can get aoused by many different looking people, and I can remove them from their personality or lifestyle, if need be. But, that’s obiviously just sexual attraction.

When it comes to romantic attraction, it has little to nothing to do with appearance. It’s their personality all the way. You know how people see someone that they’re attracted to, then they get to know them, which results in them being attracted to their personality? Well, it’s like that. But, backwards. So, I see this person’s personality, I get to know them, and then I notice how fucking insanely hot they are. So, it’s like that.

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Bullshit. Everyone sees hotness, baby. How else would you be able to read this post.

I don't believe in types. It smacks of bias toward the familiar, which is the death of creativity and all things interesting.

Like an investment portfolio, you must mitigate risk though strategic diversification. You must fuck multiple asset classes, not just one type lest the market fuck you right back.

Cheerio.

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You can call it bullshit all you want, but I know how I work. You don’t!

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You know nothing.

Cheerio.

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People are always assuming that when you're a little different, you're full of shit. Like when you see couples where one person is more conventionally hot than the other, it's always assumed they have money. If you disprove that, it's that she or he is insecure or he has a big dick lol. It's always something.

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Who is "he"?

Yeah, I know everyone has their own perceptions and shit like that. that's why I am asking. Want to read different people's… love language? Some care about looks, some don't, some care about looks but not in a conventional way, and everything in between.

Personality plays the biggest role for me as far as wanting to be with someone, and it's not about whether they're nice or not, but I do like nice. I guess it's compatibility… the right balance of similarity and difference. Looks matter somewhat, but not as much as with most people I talk to, and not in the same way. Personality can make me see past looks on rare occasions.

I wish I could be like that, where looks aren't a factor at all, but I have to admit they do.

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OMG, this black background is hurting my eyes. I need to get the fuck out of here quick.

I think mating for MOST PEOPLE works in four different ways. One way being that LOOKS matters more and it starts or ends the relationship. Then personality, as well as everything else like religion, lifestyle, etc… continues or discontinues the relationship. That’s for most people. I think that’s the main way of mating because it’s a happy medium. Tha’ts a person that isn’t too much of anything. They aren’t shallow, just caring about looks. But, they don’t just care about personality and something else, besides looks. Granted, those people do exist. There are people who are shallow that just mate base on looks and there are people who mate base on personality or other things. I just don’t they are as large as the happy medium group. As for the foruth and final group, it’s like the happy medium group, but reverse. So, instead of someone finding LOOKS important and having that start, end a relationship… personality and/or everything else is what is important and personality and/or everything else is what starts, continues, ends the relationship.

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You can change the background in you profile. You might prefer the previous autumn theme.

I think maybe I am all over the place. I have started catching feelings where I am smitten by their looks first and I have caught feelings for some girls after getting to know them, even if I didn't find them attractive at first. That was the case with my first love. I used to just see her as a friend I went to karate class with and crushed on an entirely different girl.

I'm afraid of saying something wrong with you lol. I hope nothing here comes off as objectifying, misogynistic, or something along those lines.

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Oh, thank goodness… I just changed it. For the love of blackness… it was hurting my eyes. Anyways, I really don’t have anything else to say and I’m kind of frustrated now. Not with you. I’m frustrated with someone else. So, I don’t want to talk anymore… like always, lol. I know, I’m a delight.

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You're not that bad lol. I don't agree with some of your views, but I see no ill intent or anything like that… and I can understand just burning out on something. I get like that with political discussions here. I just don't seriously partake in them. Just say a buncha shit and then call the conservatives idiots.

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I see hot people all the time… but most of them don't draw me in.
There goes the nasty looking fat Frankenfck acting like he’s so cool when in reality he’s one of the most revolting people to post here.

You a dummy. Ain’t nobody want chu, ain’t nobody need you.

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lol cool? I am wondering if I am weird, not cool. I am okay with weird, but I am curious.

You're projecting again. You still obsess over Wayne after more than a decade.

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Obsessed? Just because I text with him? He texts me too.

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That's not what I heard.

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From me? That’s what I’ve always said cause it’s the truth.

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I doubt he's talked to you in years. Even if he does, you loved the guy, and you're still clinging in the friend zone lol… and no one puts you there but yourself. You know what I did when I realized things were really over with my ex? I deleted her and blocked her. Close that fucking chapter. You'll feel better… and people are deluding themselves when they say they can be friends with an ex or unrequited love. It's bullshit. Don't even try to tell me otherwise lol.

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But I’m okay being his friend. I accepted a long time ago that he’s straight and nothing can change that.

If I didn’t wanna be his friend I would’ve blocked him by now.

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By the way, you’re doing it again. You’re objectifying women. And no, objectification doesn’t just have to be sexual.

However, what you are referring to is PREFERENCES. These socially hot girls don’t have the physical preferences you like, regardless of them being ideally hot girls. It’s kind of like… looking at a very slim, small tits, small everything, tan, hairless everywhere, blonde hair, blue eye beauty… that is socially hot. But, this particular guy prefers brunettes. It’s like that.

This has nothing to do with you being weird, special, or anything like that. Just because you are “rejecting” these women doesn’t mean anything because you’re not really rejecting them. You’re faux rejecting them. Even if you happen to reject a woman that happens to be socially hot, it doesn’t somehow make you a better person.

I also think you’re not attracted to these women because they don’t match your looks. We tend to be attracted to the same level. For example, two people who are overweight most likely would betogether because they meet at the same level. By the way, this has nothing to do with being out of someone’s league or whatever. It’s not about that. That’s what losers says to make people feel as shitty as they feel every day of their lives. So, it’s not about that. It’s just common sense, culture, social grouping, psychosocially, It’s just how it works. Sometimes it doesn’t work like that. But, in most cases it works like that. Point is, I think that’s why you’re not attracted to these women because… they are not at your level. You have a different look to you, so you need a different woman, that isn’t the stereotypical hot girl.

I also think you have personal resentment towards women.

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Fugazi likes to view the world as a set of cliches. Everyone is a "type" and there are no individuals. He is friends with losers and nerds, not with jocks. He almost had a threesome with a BBW and a petite girl. So, to Fugazi you're either a high school stereotype or a porn genre, depending on your sex.

Cheerio.

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No I don't. lol
I am an anti-cliche myself. My best friend is one as well. She appears to be some yuppie chick, but she's actually kind of a socialist and into the arts.

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Liar. The "lol" is your tell. Tells us when you're nervous.

Cheerio.

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No, I lol all the time. It's not always a sign of laughing, but sometimes of hyperness or playfulness. It's kind of a habit too. Like the way I overuse and misuse ellipses.

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You do it very often when conversating with VHS. You're clearly nervous during those exchanges. In fact you've stated they make you grow emotional, "just like video games."

Cheerio.

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Not nervous. High energy maybe… depends on how you define it. If it's nervousness, it's the same kind when you're at a part of a game when you're battling a boss or sub-boss.

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Or when you're lying.

Cheerio.

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Nah. I do it either way. I probably lie less than the average person. And when I do lie, I often admit to it later, and often it's to protect someone.

I mean, when someone tells the truth about a lie, that lends credibility… because ain't no one never lied befo.

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Not doing it on purpose. Just how my mind works.

I never think I am special. Humans are basically a few variations of the same, including myself. Also, I'm not usually rejecting these women. I just don't approach them. They probably feel the same way about me or worse and I am fine with that lol. Never said it made me a better person. Not sure where this assumption is coming from.

I'm actually attracted to a lot of opposite things. Like I have small eyes, and I love big eyes. I am slightly tall at 6ft, and I prefer very short girls. I have a small mouth with small teeth. I like girls with big smiles and lips. I have a prominent chin and the girls I like tend to even sometimes lack a chin.
When it comes to weight, it varies. Depends on the girl.

Resentment? LOL Most of my friends are women. But isn't that what all misogynists say? lol Seriously though, those enemas must be really helping you pull a lot of stuff out of your ass. I'm curious. What is this based on?
It's actually the opposite. I have trust issues with males. Males bullied me. Males sexually abused me. Males were never people I felt comfortable around. With most straight men, it's all about one-upping and phony chest pumping. It's annoying. I mean, I love friendly shit talking and rough housing with dudes, but for the most part, masculinity sickens me. However, I am not in line with some feminist schools of thought. The blanket of what is considered objectification by some covers way too much.

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Normally, people who go on and on and fucking ON about not liking stereotypical hot girls tend to make sure that they convey that they think they’re like that because they’re special in some way. Sure, you didn’t convey that in this thread, but you sort of have conveyed that level of arrogance in other threads. You just have arrogance to you, dude. You objectify women, not just sexually.,.. like I said, but as a whole. And on top of that, you are arrogant. Granted, you could be worse. At least I can carry on a conversation with you and you’re not psycho. I just think you have some resentment towards women, especially when you made that “fat girl, slim girl thread. You just make general, hateful statements about women.

I’m glad you have friends that are women. I think some men on here can’t get near women without freaking out. But, your behavior on here, even if it’s just ON HERE… shows a lot and I think you need to get that in check. Go to therapy or something. Says the girl that wants to kill herself. But, seriously… you seems like a decent guy overall. It’s every once in awhile that I see a thread, or post like this that my eyebrow is raise and I’m like, “WTF”. So, that is why I suggest going to therapy. Also, you said therapy helped you more than it helped me, that is why I mentioned it.

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I admit that I am arrogant in this setting… I'm a self-righteous bastard, and I like rubbing that in the face of the trolls here. I'm not like that IRL… not saying that matters. Maybe my actions here should be judged as there are. I don't fuckin know. I just think this place's appeal is being a little offensive and kinda letting some of that shit out. I don't think it should cross a certain line, but if it's just offensive words in teh confines of this place, I don't see it as an issue.

Threads like that are just me letting my mind wander. If I only posted shit like that about women, you might have a point, but I have made similar posts and threads talking about other things, just free associating. I don't follow these lines of thinking seriously. It's kinda like when you see a fat guy with a fedora and neckbeard. Most people form stereotypes… I do too. But when interacting, I put those thoughts aside and humanize the person. I would argue that direct actions or lack thereof matter more than words and thoughts, and in those, I show respect towards everyone on an individual basis unless they give me a reason not to.
I don't see why this would warrant more therapy. That's a little dramatic.

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Therapy isn’t being dramatic. It’s therapy. It’s not a big deal. It’s not like you’re going to a psychiatry or even a psychologist. And I din’t ask you to put yourself into a mental institution at the safety of all women. Now, that would be dramatic.

I just feel like a big way of knowing how someone’s true intentions is how they act online. And you have made that arguement before how you “dick around” on here becuase you’re just being a “troll” giving it back to the trolls. But, randomly talking about women that I’m assuming are personal in your life ARE NOT trolls on here, so I’m not sure how that really goes with your argument.

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I mean, don't disagree. I've been to it for depression and shit. I just don't think this warrants therapy especially since I don't seriously follow this way of thinking. It's kinda like when you see a ledge and you think what if I jumped off… or when someone pisses you off and you feel you can rip their heads off. It doesn't mean you have suicidal or violent tendencies. We all have these thoughts that flow in and out.

I agree actually. I just read the situation differently. I think this place and IMDb before acts as a kind of Loki inhabiting spirit for me… like the mask in The Mask. But just think, this is the worst of me. We all have dark and problematic sides, but we don't act them out usually. My dark side is having a few stereotypes in my mind and other comparably minor things. Yes, these things are still a part of me, but I feel like having an outlet for it like this place is a healthy way to pass them.
I also think it's a reaction to how I often am IRL. I am always giving people the benefit of the doubt and being really thoughtful. Part of me just wants a break from that and be emotionally and mentally lazy because I already have tons on my mind. Again, it's not just stereotypes of women, but everyone, even if you don't happen to notice those.
The women I'm talking about usually aren't people I know well. Like some of them who were in mind with these posts were my sister's former co-workers. Snobby assholes who took advantage of my sister's niceness and helpfulness.

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Your tits look lovely.

Cheerio.

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I think it's way more likely that you are not their type.

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Maybe. They're not mine either. I'm just talking the way my brain regarding attraction works. It's not really simple and I don't know how common this is. Trying to gauge the crow a little.

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If someone is actually "hot", it's not about your "type" or not. You don't really decide who you find attractive.

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I agree that you don't decide. I'm just saying that finding someone nice to look at for me is not the same as me being attracted to them. Maybe there's a better way to word this. It was also right before bed when I said this.

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Actually, yeah if they're STD positivs

Cheerio.

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I'd like them a little more if they were S F D positive…

Yeah, I know.



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Yea, but you wonder why you're not as hot.

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Yeah. Like Britney Spears, Sofia Vargalla, nd Kim Kardashian are attractive, but not my type.

I am addicted to you; I have tasted your mind, and I cannot forgo its flavor.

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I agree. My type may be less conventionally attractive or about the same as some of these women, but it's like personal.

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Your husband sounds like every woman's perfect guy. Does he have a good sense of humor too?

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I don't mind pretend narcissism or someone who is obsessed with fashion or fixing their hair, but actual narcissists suck. What I mean by pretend is when people jokingly act that way. Like I do that sometimes, but in reality, I see myself as middle of the road and boring, being an introvert.

As far as intelligence goes, it depends, but I generally like someone slightly smarter than I am, but not unrelatably so… or someone who is equally smart, but in a different way than I am. Emotional intelligence matters more to me than IQ. Being really dumb and obnoxious is a huge turn-off.

I think I already covered looks. It's variable. My preferences are usually for a certain type that's not always conventional, but there have been women who have charmed me enough to not care about their looks at all, and if I fall in love, nothing else matters.

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Yeah, you'd know about narcissism.

Cheerio.
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