Why do people care so much that their commitment has to be official or written on paper?
I think people shouldn’t feel obligated to stay together but actually and genuinely want to stay together on their own.
Living together and being committed based solely on love sounds good on Hallmark card, but it is just not practical and realistic. You'll find that out when you get a little older.
Houses are expensive. Automobiles are expensive. Children are expensive. Daycare. Food. Appliances. Etc. No man and woman is going to make these big purchases with someone they aren't contractually tied to. That'd be insane.
It's insane for a man buy a 50,000 Lexus for his live-in girlfriend, who could simply take the car and legally leave him the next day.
No man and woman, self-ascribed partners in love, are going to trust each other that much, on a leap of faith, to purchase things like a 400K house together. Put down on a cabin at the sea. And they'd be stupid if they did; because it can and statistically WILL come back to haunt them.
How many couples do you know that have stayed committed for over 50 years, unwed? And made big purchases together? It doesn't happen.
Plus it looks retarded to the dealership when a man and woman who are not married co-sign for a car together. Not many people do that.
If one party decides to leave then marriage, then there needs to be those obstacles such as filing for divorce and legally dividing the assets, custody hearings. Without marriage, you're making it TOO easy for someone to walk away without notice at any given time.
When people do get married, they do make big purchases together. That's unavoidable. They buy houses, cars, renovate their kitchens, upgrade to an SUV if they have kids, have a backyard poll installed, and so on. It's not like you can have a marriage and not make large purchases together. It's part of it.
And if a couple loves each other and intends to stay together forever, but chooses to remain unwed, what's the point of still having separate places when they could be consolidating?? It's a waste.
It's totally fine if someone doesn't want to get married, but their relationship is going to be a totally different type of relationship than not being married. Totally different. And some people may prefer that.